9What is thy beloved more than another beloved, O thou fairest among women? what is thy beloved more than another beloved, that thou dost so charge us? 10My beloved is white and ruddy, the chiefest among ten thousand. 11His head is as the most fine gold, his locks are bushy, and black as a raven. 12His eyes are as the eyes of doves by the rivers of waters, washed with milk, and fitly set. 13His cheeks are as a bed of spices, as sweet flowers: his lips like lilies, dropping sweet smelling myrrh. 14His hands are as gold rings set with the beryl: his belly is as bright ivory overlaid with sapphires. 15His legs are as pillars of marble, set upon sockets of fine gold: his countenance is as Lebanon, excellent as the cedars. 16His mouth is most sweet: yea, he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.
Song of Solomon 6 1Whither is thy beloved gone, O thou fairest among women? whither is thy beloved turned aside? that we may seek him with thee. 2My beloved is gone down into his garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather lilies. 3I am my beloved’s, and my beloved is mine: he feedeth among the lilies.
Looks aren’t everything, no matter what you have heard. Have you ever met someone that just fell in love? What is usually their typical conversation? Their new mate, right? Well that also seems to be all that the Shulamite woman can talk about. The women she is speaking to ask her the question” 9What is thy beloved more than another beloved, O thou fairest among women?” and she spends the next several versus describing this man to them. The verse I find to be the most important out of everything that she says is in the last sentence of verse 6 ” This is my beloved, and this is my friend, O daughters of Jerusalem.”
Physical beauty goes away sooner or later. But what gives a relationship foundation and keeps it strong is friendship. If the only thing we have with our “beloved” is a physical attraction, chances are the relationship won’t last. So what are some things we can do to help strengthen friendship in existing relationships and build friendship as we enter into new relationships?